Authenticity and Dying: The Gift To Finally Be You

Tanya Unkovich Grief Expert image. Transformational Life Coach

If you’re at the end stage of life, now is the time to be authentically, unapologetically YOU. 

No one wants to hear that their life is coming to an end. 

But facing the end of your life presents an incredible gift— a rare opportunity to be the authentic, genuine you.

No more pleasing other people.

No more listening to what everyone else wants.

No more hiding your real thoughts, ideas and wishes. 

As wonderful as this might sound, tapping into your authenticity can be a challenge, especially if you’ve denied your true voice for years. 

Why It Takes a Diagnosis To Finally Live 

Now that you’ve heard your terminal diagnosis, it might seem easy to say, “Forget everyone else! I’m going to live my life my way!”

Yet, we spend most of our lives pretending we’re someone we’re not. We hide our real beliefs, true thoughts and genuine feelings. 

We compare ourselves to others. We strive to be accepted by our parents, our bosses, and our friends. We even try to impress acquaintances who have no meaning in our lives. And every time this happens, we bury who we are until we lose all sight of our true selves.

That’s why I’m inviting you to finally be your genuine, authentic self. This is YOUR life. Claim it for yourself!

The Truth That Sets You Free

When I work with clients who are in the final chapter of life, I challenge them to accept that there’s nothing left to lose. I challenge you to accept the same truth.

It won’t be easy at first. The fear will threaten to swallow you whole. But if you have someone like me by your side, holding you through this transition, you can set yourself free as your miraculous self. 

That’s the beauty of dying. It awakens us from the dream we’ve been living and breaks us free from the invisible prison we’ve built our whole lives.

But what if you have no idea how to be YOU?

How To Tap Into Your Authentic Self

If you’re tired of not being the ‘true you’, but don’t know how to discover who you really are, the answers to the following questions can help you recognize your authentic self:

  • If money wasn’t an object, what would your life look like?
  • Would you be traveling the world? Publishing your memoir? Singing on stage? Teaching your grandchildren about your heritage?
  • What would you like to change about your closest relationships?
  • What would you say to them? What would you do with them? Do you want forgiveness? Do you need to forgive others? What needs to happen before you pass away so your life feels 100% complete?
  • How would you write a happy ending if you were the author of your life story?

Being silent with yourself and reflecting on these questions will begin to reveal your authentic emotions and desires. Don’t edit yourself. Don’t hold back. This is just about you.

This often sparks a breakthrough for my clients. Alone with themselves, with me, or their Higher Power, they often discover things about themselves they never knew. They remember wishes they had long ago that still exist deep down inside.

Most of all, they find out they’re enough.

The Miracle Of Being Totally, Completely You

Tapping into your authentic self isn’t just about ticking items of a bucket list.

Facing this final act— this Unplanned Journey— teaches us how to live each moment, each hour, each day as if it was our last. It demonstrates the preciousness of life and ourselves. 

And as that awakening unfolds, a new sense of self-acceptance, self-worth and self-respect emerge. 

How would an unbreakable sense of self-love change this last chapter of your life? What would that feel like?

This is the gift that’s available to you; the freedom to accept yourself fully, faults and all.

The Most Common Obstacles To Being Your True, Authentic Self

In our digital age, we are becoming more and more reliant on reinforcement from the outside world to tell us how we “should” feel and what we “should” need and care about.

But you simply cannot find the answer to BIG questions, like “What is my purpose?” “What do I want for myself in these last months?” and “What is my Higher Power?” from the outside.

Only our internal experience and our emotions can guide us towards the authenticity we seek as we approach the end of life. 

If you’re struggling to answer these questions, you’ve likely found common blockages that get in the way:

  • Anger
  • Shame 
  • Guilt
  • Regret
  • Resentment
  • Lack of self-worth

Sometimes, we have to forgive ourselves and others before we can discover who we truly are. 

If you can go within and determine which of these blockages is the ‘kingpin’ holding you back, your authenticity will begin to flow.  It may be tough to face at first, but what waits for you is the self-love that sets you free.

Then, something beautiful happens. 

That flow brings you to a place of acceptance of your death. It gives you the strength to tie up loose ends, as hard as they may be, and find completion before your last breath. That’s where joy, calm and peace await.

Is there anything more wondrous than that? 

If you need help to find this power in yourself and you’d like to live your last days with comfort and inner-peace, I’d be honored to help. Below, you can book a conversation with me where we’ll chat about what you want for yourself in this final stage of life. Then, we can make it a beautiful reality for you and those you love.

If you would like to watch a short video where I talk about this simply click here.