About Tanya

Turning Pain Into Peaceful Fulfillment

Tanya Unkovich Grief Expert image. Transformational Life Coach
Tanya Unkovich Grief Expert image. Transformational Life Coach

Welcome! I’m Tanya,

An elite transformation specialist and Legacy Advisor who’s dedicated to helping you rediscover joy when loss, grief and adversity have devastated your world.

Through my programs, books, radio and media appearances, I help people come back even stronger after adversity. I am a specialist in guiding widows, widowers, and people diagnosed with a life altering illness, or entering the last stage of their lives, to move through life’s most difficult times and live to the fullest.

“After losing my father to cancer in June, we found out that my sister also had an aggressive cancer that took her life 5 months later in May 2008. Five months . . . The same period of time that you traveled that path with Phil battling his cancer. I read your account of that journey with Phil and cried unashamedly through a lot of it. I really felt your love for each other and the strength of your belief in God to help you through. I think you did a marvellous job as his wife, caregiver and support person. I have found the ongoing entries you’ve made in your journal since Phil’s passing to be particularly helpful as I have so often struggled too on the up and down see-saw of emotions that grief and loss create with us.”
~ Karen L.

Like most people I meet, you might be wondering how this became

my life’s work.

The truth is, over the last 30 years, I’ve amassed vast experience from accounting to computer consulting to becoming Tony Robbins’ first Coach in New Zealand.

I’m a published author, the co-host of Hour of Power, been featured in numerous publications like Verve Magazine, become a regular guest on Magic Talk Radio, and a weekly contributor on New Zealand’s #1 Christian Radio Station, Radio Rhema.

But it wasn’t until I saw my husband, Phil, take his last breath in my arms that my world ended, and my soul’s purpose became clear.

Just 5 months earlier, on Phil’s 48th birthday, our lives crumbled to ash. He was diagnosed with cancer.

At first, I had no clue how to process it; or what to say to this strong, beautiful man who was dying. The man I loved. The man I planned to grow old with.

Suddenly, out of nowhere, we were forced to navigate this nightmarish emotional rollercoaster, yet we didn’t know how.

Phil, with his gorgeous spirit, wanted to write a book about his journey— his Unplanned Journey into the unknown. He believed in living life his way and wanted to inspire others to embrace the power of faith, love and hope.

Me? I felt lost. Broken.

And completely overwhelmed. How was I supposed to live the rest of my life without him? How would I get through? I didn’t even want to think about it.

But deep down, I also felt guilty. How can I be worried about ME, when he’s the one in pain and facing the unthinkable?

Those days were dark and agonizing, but Phil was a light in this world that shined bright. Then, on April 12th, 2005, he closed his eyes for the last time. He was gone.

I didn’t realize it then, but within days of his passing, I was driven by a deep knowing to write his book which became our story of adversity and resilience.

That book, called, ‘Unplanned Journey: A Triumph In Life And Death,’ radiates Phil’s light to this day, guiding people to live every moment with peace, joy and gratitude.

That first year was extremely difficult for me, but I eventually learned how to

Experience Joy, Meaning And Purpose In Life When It Seemed Like There Was None.

And now, I share

the same tools to help thousands of people to live again after they have been through major adversity. I help widows, widowers, and people diagnosed with a life altering illness, or who are at the last stage of their lives, turn fear into dignity and pain into peaceful fulfilment.

Why? Because I remember how hard it was to get through the day after Phil passed. I felt like an island, surrounded by a sea of grief that no one understood.

I felt heartbroken and alone, and back then, it wasn’t easy to find real, effective help. It felt like people just wanted me to ‘bounce back,’ and ‘move on’ when what they really meant was, ‘stop making me feel uncomfortable’.

But, grief is like a fingerprint. It’s different for all of us. Some of us get angry. Some of us cry until nothing’s left. Others go numb for years.

However, I know from experience that with the right tools, life can be joyful and meaningful again; if you’re open to mending your heart and welcoming joy back into your life.

No matter what you are going through, never give up hope, and you can make this stage of life— be your greatest chapter.

That’s why, whether you’re facing the unknown, stuck in your grief, or just lost someone you love, I want you to know you CAN move forward with grace and dignity.

“It’s fair to say that I’m a pretty hard, old guy whose life experiences have made me emotionless and self contained. It was such a surprise then that as I listened and watched your story, to find myself in tears. I admit to being very confused at the dichotomy of emotions; complete and utter grief for your loss, mixed with admiration for the life, values and strengths you have today. Tanya, without a doubt you are one of the most courageous and inspiring individuals to come into my life.”

Brian H.

from grief to greatness

Discover how to anchor profound peace while navigating life’s most pivotal transition

you can laugh again.
you can be an

inspiration.

I know it feels impossible right now, but this isn’t insurmountable.

No matter how you’ve ended up on this page, I’m sorry you have need of this support, but I’m so glad you’re here.

Together, we can turn your Grief into Greatness— whatever Greatness means to you…

And open the doors to a purpose-filled journey filled with faith, peace and hope.

Questions to help you go from grief to greatness

Discover how to anchor profound peace while navigating life’s most pivotal transition